Paste the message you want to send, and get a version that says the same thing without handing the other side an exhibit. Built on the Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm method, adapted as CalmSend™.
The coach scores the draft for hostility, blame, sarcasm, and threats, then highlights the specific phrases that would read badly if a judge saw them. Most damaging messages are one clause away from being fine.
The rewritten message keeps your actual request and removes the argument around it: brief enough to be read, informative enough to be actionable, friendly in tone without being false, and firm about the boundary. You always see both versions and choose what to send.
Ready-made structures for schedule change requests, late pickups, medical decisions, introducing a new partner, and money. Each one is written to survive being read aloud in a courtroom.
Free accounts get five rewrites a month. The coach is an educational drafting aid, not legal advice, and it will not tell you whether to send a message at all. If there is a safety concern, contact your attorney or local domestic violence resources first.
Parents who use the coach consistently report the biggest change is not the wording but the delay: drafting, reading the analysis, and choosing a version puts sixty seconds between the impulse and the send. Over a year of messages that gap is what keeps a file clean. Save the rewrites you send most often as templates so recurring requests take one click.